“Everybody is in a relationship!!!”

Have you been single for a while and already getting sick of it?

Happy couples seem to be everywhere – getting married, engaged, having kids, or just jumping in and out of relationships. And all you want is to finally meet that special person.

So what happens?

You start complaining to your friends about being single.

You make a profile on every dating site you can find.

You feel frustrated and start thinking all men/women are the same.

If that sounds like you, chances are you’ve slipped into obsessing over love.

And here’s the tricky part: when you’re single, it’s so easy to idealize relationships. To believe they’re the magical missing piece that will make you happy forever.

But if you catch yourself thinking you’ll never be truly happy unless you find a partner, that’s a red flag. You’ve put yourself in a negative mindset that will only make things harder.

Because you can get the best out of life – with or without someone by your side.

Why Relationships Are Overrated

So many people stay stuck in dysfunctional relationships – where their partner cheats, abuses them, or simply acts like they don’t exist.

Are they miserable? You bet.

But they stay anyway, terrified that being single will somehow feel worse.

The truth is, what you see from the outside is never the full picture. Other people’s relationships may look perfect, but you don’t see the routines, the boredom, or the endless fights that happen behind closed doors.

And honestly? I’ve seen people do the wildest things in the name of “finding love.”

Speed dating. Joining a gym just to meet someone. Pulling tarot cards. Buying magic crystals. Even signing up for a cooking class just because they hope the ONE might show up there – like life is some Hallmark movie.

It’s natural to want a partner. But life loves to play tricks on us. The harder you chase love, the faster it seems to run away.

And if you’re not happy on your own, you won’t suddenly become happy in a relationship either.

So instead of sitting on the couch with a tub of ice cream, sighing through that episode of The Office where Jim and Pam finally get together… why not flip the script?

There are so many perks to being single. In fact, single life might just be the BEST thing that ever happened to you.

Because here’s the funny part: the moment you start making the most out of life on your own… that’s usually when the right person shows up.

There’s no drama and you don’t have to justify yourself to anyone

Think back to your last relationship. Was your ex jealous, clingy, or constantly nagging you about something?

I know a couple who fights every single weekend about cleaning the house. The guy just wants to relax and meet his friends, while his girlfriend insists on doing a full “spring clean” every Saturday. Since she doesn’t have much of a social life, she expects him to do the same. Cue: endless arguments.

For me, I have a habit of calling my mom after work every other day because she lives across the country. But one of my exes used to sulk and make faces about it, just because my attention wasn’t on him in that exact moment.

And here’s another one.

I had a colleague so jealous that she would call her boyfriend every 30 minutes. Once, when he was on his way to meet her, she rang while he was passing through a metro station. She didn’t believe him and made him send her pictures because “it didn’t sound like the metro!” Needless to say, that relationship didn’t last long.

You spend all your free time the way you want

Being single means you get 100% “me time.”

You can binge-watch your favorite show with a giant bowl of popcorn, or book that exotic trip you’ve always dreamed about, without having to ask anyone’s opinion.

You don’t have to choose between hanging out with friends or keeping a partner happy. You don’t have to negotiate every little plan.

Your weekends are truly yours. You can go out, stay in, sleep late, or do absolutely nothing, and nobody gets to complain about it.

And it doesn’t matter if someone else is okay with that or not.

You spend all your money on yourself

Did you know studies show that single people manage to save twice as much as those living with a partner? Being in a relationship can put a serious dent in your finances.

One of the best perks of single life is freedom over your budget. No need to plan every meal or overspend on fancy date nights, you can happily throw together a lazy dinner and enjoy it guilt-free.

Plus, with more free time, you can put energy into a side hustle and really grow your income.

And let’s not forget – you get to spoil yourself without hesitation. Whether that means spending three hours shopping, treating yourself to something special, or finally buying that latest PSP, you don’t have to justify it to anyone.

You can wear comfy clothes at home – and nobody cares

When you’re in a relationship, it’s easy to get too comfortable. You stop fixing your hair, stop buying cute clothes, or maybe even leave the bathroom door open.

And I don’t think that’s a great idea long-term, (it can actually hurt attraction).

But when you’re single? Go wild.

Rock your comfiest sweats, your fluffiest socks, or that oversized hoodie you’ve been dying to lounge in. No judgments, no awkward comments – just pure, unapologetic comfort.

You can plan your vacations with whoever you want

Vacation days are limited, and it’s always a hassle trying to sync schedules with a partner.

What looks like a perfect trip on someone’s Facebook feed often turns into a tug-of-war over where to go, where to sleep, what to eat, and who to hang out with.

Sometimes, you just want to escape for a few days with friends and do your own thing.

Singles don’t need to take permission to do anything they want. You can travel wherever, whenever, with whoever you want—and you don’t have to feel guilty for being a little selfish.

You can go on dates without any expectations of meeting the person ever again

Nothing beats that rush of a new connection – the butterflies, the giddy excitement, the feeling that the world is suddenly brighter and everyone seems like a potential friend. That’s the honeymoon phase, and yes, it’s intoxicating.

But let’s be honest – it fades.

In a serious relationship, you sometimes catch yourself thinking, “Is this it? Will I ever feel these butterflies again?”

When you are single, you have endless opportunities. You can go on dates just for fun, with zero pressure to turn it into a relationship. Meet new people, explore new dynamics, and savor the thrill of novelty.

If you don’t go on dates desperate to get into a relationship, you can turn everyday into a unique experience.

Even if a date turns out to be a total disaster, hey – you’ve got stories to tell later, and that in itself is priceless!

You can flirt shamelessly – and enjoy it

Flirting is a great way to have fun and boost your self-esteem. It lets you test your charm, and just reminds you how magnetic you can be. People flirt all the time – at work, with friends, or with someone they like.

When you are in a relationship you can’t afford to do it. Even if it’s harmless, it can make your partner uncomfortable, so it’s usually off-limits.

Being single? No rules. Go ahead, have fun, and enjoy the harmless spark of attraction.

You don’t have to cook or clean for anyone

When you’re single, you don’t have to take care of anybody but yourself.

No one else’s mess, no one else’s demands—just you. You don’t get annoyed by your partner’s icky habits, like leaving clothes on the floor or turning the kitchen into a disaster zone.

You’re also free from nagging or having your stuff moved around without permission.

You become the best version of yourself

Let’s be real – when people get into a relationship, they get lazy.

Gym sessions get skipped, healthy meals fall to the wayside, hobbies get neglected, and personal development often takes a backseat. Sometimes, you even start prioritizing your partner’s needs over your own.

Being single is your golden opportunity.

Now’s the perfect time to focus on yourself- build your dream body, pick up new skills, expand your social circle, or even go for that second degree.

You have the freedom to become the person you’ve ALWAYS wanted to be!(See the ultimate guide on achieving all your goals and dreams).

Single life can be bliss, and you should enjoy it as much as possible because once you enter a serious relationship or start a family… you’ll never have the same freedom again.

Dealing with a breakup? Grab the How to get over your ex in 30 days ebook here.

Also check out:

How to stop the urge to text your ex

How to not regret breaking up with someone

How to not let a breakup completely destroy you

This will convince your ex to give you another chance

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